Agapé is an ancient Greek word for all-encompassing Love of all of reality, including loving self, others, animals, things, energy, thoughts, feelings, etc. – the unconditional loving of Everything! The early Greeks, including Plato, believed in three forms of love: Eros, affection of a sexual nature; Philia, non-sexual affection for a friend, neighbour or colleague and; Agapé, affection for or attachment to a soul-mate, spouse, family member or Spiritual belief or tradition, etc.
There are numerous synonyms for agapé used by Spiritual groups, societies and cultures throughout the world. Some examples are: psyche, metta, namaste, aloha, luminosity, chesed (Hebrew for loving-kindness), etc. In recent years many teachers have talked about “going inside” themselves as if it is the opposite of the practice of previous generations who seemed preoccupied with “going outside” of themselves. When I am with Partners in Healing (clients), one of my top themes is: “What inside! What outside! Consider the Whole…”. I remind them that they are not detached as if by a “cookie cutter” from their surroundings. Our bodies, minds, Spirits and environments are inextricably and holographically interconnected.
There are many disciplines and practices for attaining this Oneness or Awakening. One that I highly recommend to my Partners in Healing (clients) is the floatation tank. I have just returned from a trip to Montreal and the Ovarium Float Centre (www.Ovarium.com). I have floated at least twenty times and each time I have completely connected with the whole of existence. I have experienced my own re-birth and re-conception on a number of occasions in a float tank. Other modalities in which I have experienced Oneness are: Kundalini Yoga, Grofian Holotropic Breathwork and Ericksonian Hypnosis. All of these practices have a common thread. They enable a person to become “Heart-connected” and stay in a state of bliss or agapé. They are all good ways of “re-charging” our Soul battery and learning how to STAY fully charged.
Recently CBC Radio featured a program in which a speech by Dr. Martin Luther King was rebroadcast. He spoke at great length about agapé and how it had influenced him and his followers in their quest for racial equality in the United States. He contrasted “like” and ”love” by stressing that he had no liking for hate-filled, white bigots and, at the same time, he maintained his brotherly love for them regardless of their ignorance and hatred. He said that the last thing he wanted to become was a violent, hate-filled person like them! Dr. King adhered to the same principles of non-reactivity and non-attachment that Mahatma Ghandi exemplified in his courageous demonstrations to free India from English colonial government.
For a couple to experience agapé is infinitely more challenging than for an individual. Sometimes one of the partners is in agapé and the other is in philia or eros. Sufi Jalaluddin Rumi says it very well in his poem, “If the Beloved is everywhere, the lover is a veil, But when living itself becomes the friend, lovers disappear.” It is the response-ability of each person in the couple to evolve their own Self-loving capacity to attain self- actualization and then, AND ONLY THEN, can the two partners “ratchet” their way up together to agapé in an inter-active process of emotional and Spiritual growth. I truly wish and hope that you experience this wonderful state before you leave this planet! Namaste…………